Freedom! and Maternity Shopping Rant

Saturday was a very atypical day in my life. Jonathan took care of Hula Girl all day long and told me I could just go do whatever I wanted to do! Just to clarify- he is normally extremely involved with her on weekends, and he takes on the bulk of the “parenting” responsibilities when he’s home. But he actually told me to just go out and not worry about being home at any certain time or anything. He was even planning on putting her to bed all by himself if I wasn’t home in time!

I wondered at first what on earth I would do with myself for a whole day. So, I laid in bed thinking about what options I had available. I thought about driving out to a national forest and going hiking. I thought about going to have my hair cut. I thought about going to the YMCA and checking out the facility to decide whether or not we should join. In the end none of these won out.

My first stop was the main branch of the library. I have never been to the large main branch before- I take Hula Girl to the local branch. The local branch isn’t small, and it has enough to offer for a toddler and her mommy, so it’s never occurred to me that we should visit the main branch. Well, now I have other ideas! The main branch of the library here is huge (compared to most libraries I’ve seen- not big-city libraries like ones in New York or whatnot). It is definitely larger than the library on my university campus. Well, maybe not anymore- I haven’t seen the new additions they started as I was leaving.

Anyway, the point is that the library was worth my time! I found five books and then just sat down in the “Hispanic” section (lol, it was deserted and there were comfy chairs!) and I read for an hour and a half! That is so unlike me these days. But it was nice and I was glad to have the chance to try it out. I think when Hula Girl and Gelato go to school, I will spend a good portion of some days reading.

After the library, I decided to head over to Hobby Lobby, the dollar store, and Target to try to find some things to use in Hula Girl’s exploratory play stations. I got some practice baseballs (“whiffle balls” as our PE teacher called them in elementary school), tissue paper, Color Wonder paper and markers, and heart-shaped table scatters (basically, foam pieces that you’d toss on top of a table at a Valentine party). I also tried to find water beads, but I think I’m going to have to order them online. Unless someone knows where to buy them…???

Then I decided that I’d really like to buy a new maternity outfit that I could wear just to the store or out for a walk in the neighborhood. I have quite a few things from when I was teaching, but they’re all dressier than my normal everyday style (which currently consists of yoga pants, sweat pants, t-shirts, and tennis shoes). I feel like I dress like a slob most days, which is fine since we rarely actually go anywhere, but I’d like to have the option to look decent (and somewhat in style). Also, since I was pregnant last time, styles have definitely changed. Last time around, boot-cut jeans were perfectly acceptable. Now, skinny is it… most of the time. Last time, longer tops were the thing. This year’s styles have women showing off their belts again.

So I looked around Target for a while before deciding that I will eventually need some tank tops, but it’s really only January and I don’t really need to spend $25 on a t-shirt when I have similar ones I can still wear right now. (My stomach is growing, but all my tops still fit okay.) Also, the selection at Target was dismal. Most of it was just maternity tanks, yoga pants, and cardigans that have no buttons or zippers. And, it’s tough shopping for maternity jeans when all the store has to offer are sizes that are literally 4x too big (or bigger). I mean, seriously (and I remember this being an issue last time, too, so it’s not a Target exclusive), some women are smaller than a size 8 when they get pregnant. And they stay smaller than a size 8 all throughout their pregnancy. Just FYI.

After the disappointing Target experience, I decided to try Kohl’s. They usually have good sales and sometimes have cute things. Their maternity section was 1000 times worse than Target’s! Apparently all pregnant women work and have to have work apparel. I get that some, in fact, do. But not all! I don’t need any more maternity dress slacks. I don’t need any more polyester maternity blouses. All I wanted was a nice pair of jeans and some good-fitting tops that are cute but not plain. I don’t want to wear plain t-shirts. I want to be somewhat cute while lugging a big ol’ belly and a toddler around!

It was not in the cards. Now, I know that there are plenty of other stores, and I shouldn’t get discouraged just because I checked out two stores and they didn’t have the exact thing I’m looking for. But, if you’re female, you know the feeling that set in. Discouragement, disappointment, frustration, give-up-now-or-cry-soon-tion. So I went to lunch.

I ate Chipotle tacos and enjoyed them immensely. Being pregnant allows you to enjoy large helpings of delicious healthful foods without worrying about counting those calories or spending extra time on the treadmill later. 🙂

After lunch I sat and read until 4:30. Three solid hours of sitting and reading. What?! Yep, it was nice.

Then I went home and took a shower while Jonathan cooked dinner and still took care of Hula Girl. I helped put her to bed, then went to bed myself and read myself to sleep while Jonathan did laundry. All in all, a pretty good day.

I do wish I had done more. I enjoy reading, but I feel like I missed out on a great opportunity to see a movie or get a haircut, which I could use. But alas, another day will come.

How was your weekend?



  1. rr said,

    January 30, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    oh man I should have told you baby r us was having clearance sales (additional 40% off clearance price). I didn’t get anything because I am not into it yet, i don’t think I will shop for material clothes until I really have to…
    you should be so proud of me, i was well enough to go for a 5 miles walk around the Miramar Lake with Rhyan… 🙂 then, yesterday, he just drove me along the coast all afternoon, enjoying the sun…
    anyways, miss you…

    • January 30, 2012 at 4:12 pm

      That Rhyan is a keeper! 🙂 Thanks for the update on BRU- but we don’t have one here. The closest one is in the Springs. Boo. Man, I miss you, too. More and more every day. I think they are twins.

    • January 30, 2012 at 4:13 pm

      Also, I am glad you were feeling well. How are you today?

  2. Rachel said,

    January 30, 2012 at 4:34 pm

    Check the Gap and Old Navy maternity sites. They have sales pretty frequently, and I found that their jeans were comfortable, pretty high quality for the price, and fairly comparable to my pre-pregnancy sizes in their non-maternity clothes. I will caution against the pants with the “below the belly” and demi-panel. No matter how hard I tried, I could not get them to stay up–and nothing is worse than having to constantly tug your pants up while chasing a busy toddler! Ok, maybe some things are worse, but you get the drift.

    • January 30, 2012 at 4:40 pm

      The only maternity pants I have that actually fit me well the entire pregnancy are the XS corduroy ones from Old Navy that I got on clearance for $6.48/pair a couple years ago! Ha! I thought of Old Navy, but the one here has no maternity section, so I will definitely have to check online. Shopping online makes me nervous, though, because if it doesn’t fit, it’s such a hassle. Maybe I should just push to bring yoga pants into style. Yeah? You with me?

      • Rachel said,

        January 30, 2012 at 4:44 pm

        I’m currently wearing my “dressy” yoga pants–which means they don’t have paint or food on them. Also, when did athletic pants become yoga pants? I’m wearing the same style of pants I wore in high school, but suddenly they’re “yoga pants!”

      • January 31, 2012 at 3:30 pm

        That’s ‘cuz in high school you were the dork with the stretchy pants when all the rest of us were wearing the super cool uuber hip “rip off” style pants with buttons down the legs.

      • January 31, 2012 at 3:30 pm

        Actually, you were never dorky, which is why I can’t figure out why we were ever even friends. You took such pity on me. Thanks. 🙂

      • Rachel said,

        January 31, 2012 at 3:37 pm

        Um…I’m still an uber-dork. I’m just good at hiding it 🙂 I’m glad you finally got the stretchy pants memo. So much more comfortable than the “rip off” style. And so much quieter. I can still hear the athletic pants noise in my head.

  3. Rachel said,

    January 31, 2012 at 3:38 pm

    And you’re my polyp. Every medusa must have a polyp. There…it’s your dork proof.

    • January 31, 2012 at 4:34 pm

      Meaning… I am dork proof, or proof has been provided that we’re both dorks? Lol, either way, it’s great having a friend like you.

  4. Kristy said,

    February 1, 2012 at 7:28 pm

    Have you tried the old rubber-band tied around the regular-jean buttonhole and looped around the button? With a long maternity shirt over top, it works fine for a while. But seriously, I never found a truly good maternity jeans option.

    I worked in an office through my first pregnancy (not the second) and my maternity clothes were hideous! Tent-y pants, those polyester shirts you mentioned, a long skirt I always hoped wouldn’t fall all the way down…shudder.

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